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Writing about the brain, culture, and everything in between. Researcher, expat, and book addict. Head editor of par-desi.com.

Being an immigrant or expat will stretch your limits and sober your ego.

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If you were offered a coveted job in your field, but it was in another country, would you accept?

For me, the answer was a resounding “yes.”

The excitement of obtaining your first job is euphoric. You know there will be challenges along the way, but you’re only focused on how amazing it will be, and now you finally have an answer to all the “So what’re you doing after college?” questions. There were also perks of watching eyes widen when I mentioned moving countries.

Living in the middle of another culture is filled with wonder and novelty, but it’s…


How this seemingly automatic behaviour helps you control your mind

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Small changes can lead to profound benefits and improvements. Likewise, they can also massively affect your negatively. You might automatically think of habits such as setting out your clothes the night before to prevent decision fatigue. You will notice a significant decrease in anxiety when you plan tomorrow’s tasks.

But there’s one thing you need to change if you want to see improvements in every part of your life.

You need to change the way you breathe.

“Breath is the bridge which connects life to consciousness, which unites your body to your thoughts. Whenever your mind becomes scattered, use your…


Adelina’s story in “The Young Elites” is driven by childhood trauma and a thirst for revenge.

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There are plenty of times where I want to absolutely lose my mind.

You’ve probably felt the same. Someone in your life hurt you and made you feel powerless. Maybe for no reason other than their own pleasure or desire for power.

We’re told to stand tall and be the bigger person. After all, that’s the morally just thing to do. But sometimes I wonder what would happen if I gave into my anger. What would happen if you were the person in power, able to exact your revenge? After all, there are plenty of people who do this on…


Make your learning curves easier to handle and come out on top.

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On your first day, you come to a chilling conclusion: you don’t know what you don’t know. That feeling can be paralyzing. You’re not incompetent, you tell yourself, but you’re really starting to feel like it now.

When I started working, I realized there was a huge gap in my knowledge. While I knew some of my skills were transferrable, there were so many gaps in knowledge. So I had to figure out a plan: I needed to learn a lot of things without asking my colleagues to teach me everything along the way.

Once you notice the knowledge gap…


What I wish anti-vaxxers would understand about scientific research

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The last 1.5 years have not only produced some vaccines, but also some armchair epidemiologists. And by some, I mean way too many.

I love it when people get curious about science and understand that there’s a lot of popular misinformation out there disguised as credible scientific fact. I’m glad that the pandemic has made more transparent the roles of PhD-level researchers and the importance of their work.

And yet…

With the development of vaccines, subgroups of people don’t want to get them. …


Here’s how you can level-up your skills to stand out from the crowd.

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When my parents initially put me in the middle school band at 10 years old, they were just hoping that I’d pick up a few friends and some self-confidence. Little did they know that in the next 11 years I wouldn’t just learn how to play instruments and sweat in wool uniforms. Those 11 years taught me how to learn new skills, and what sets apart the good from the exceptional.

One meta-skill that is hard to teach is powerful and effective performance. …


Here’s why knowing this information will make you more empathetic.

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I learned about the fight or flight system via a bear.

Not personally, but through my professor’s storytelling.

We were learning about the reason why one person would run away if they saw a bear, while another might punch it in the nose. A perfect illustration of the fight or flight response.

This is something we’ve seen many scientists (and self-help writers) use as reason before. But is it possible we’ve all been getting this wrong?

My teacher took a marker to the whiteboard, and started talking us through a diagram of the fight or flight system. He named neurotransmitters…


“Hood Feminism” and “So You Want to Talk About Race” are accessible and vital reads to get you started on your feminist journey.

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Everyone is talking about it online, yet you don’t know where to begin.

When you’re unfamiliar with feminism, it’s hard to join the conversation. The amount of information you must learn (or unlearn) can be overwhelming. It’s easy to put off the long-overdue work of educating yourself. However, no amount of bold type-face posts on Instagram can replace doing the work.

The problem is that a lot of classic, important feminist literature isn’t accessible to everyone. By accessible I mean: easy to understand when you’re at ground zero. …


Even though it’s none of your business, here are 3 reasons why

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“But it’s just a question!” You might say.

It’s a common question — sprinkled into best man speeches and launched at childless couples as easily as talking about the weather. Sure, the person the question was aimed at might have laughed, answered, or diverted the attention. If you’re not close with that person, it probably wasn’t welcomed.

While the first reason why you shouldn’t ask this question is, “It’s none of your business,” you honestly might not know why people don’t like this question.

Having children is a deeply personal matter, literally and figuratively. …

Anu Kumar

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