Seriously, Stop Pretending You’re Fine and Cry It Out

Why it’s okay to cry and how to get better at it.

Anu Kumar
4 min readSep 29, 2021
Photo by Artem Nedzelskiy on Unsplash

“I’m gonna end up crying this weekend.”

I can usually predict when I’m going to cry a few days before I do.

It’ll start with a mundane morning. A cup of coffee, breathing, and already feeling stressed with my to-do list for the day. And then a memory will occur, or a point of stress that has my mind whirring. When I look at the clock, realize that I have to start my journey to work, I push it down with an “It’s okay. You have work to do.” and don’t think about it.

Except I do. It keeps popping up in my mind. Over and over, I replay revenge fantasies. Until one day, usually on my off day or on a weekend while walking outside and having a supposedly relaxing day, the tears come. They start spilling out and my breathing becomes quick and labored, and I can’t think straight.

“Holding it in” isn’t always healthy

When you’re pushing down your stress and bottling up your negative emotions, you’re engaging in repressive coping. While shoving these feelings down helps you get on with your day, they lead to serious health risks. Turns out, avoiding your feelings isn’t all it’s cracked up to be.

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Anu Kumar

I write about books, culture, behaviors, and practical self improvement. Words + Fiction @ par-desi.com.